“Judge nothing, you will be happy. Forgive everything, you will be happier. Love everything, you will be happiest.” – Sri Chinmoy
Dealing with negative people is the hardest part of life that I ever had to deal with. It seems like a simple subject at first glance. When I was in my teenage years, I was probably the most negative person. I had a simple concept: if you are negative about the future, you will not be disappointed. If someone would be negative towards me, I would I attack them back with negativity or just eliminate any communication with them again.
Regarding negative situations: As I got older, I learned that life is a lot more complicated, and I began looking for something positive in any negative situation. If I could not find anything positive, I would accept it as a lesson and try to learn from it and move on.
Regarding negative people, who try to dismiss your character, talk behind your back and jeopardize your relationships with people or hurt your income potential: It is hard to fix an issue if you are not present at a place where someone said something bad about you. If that person causes you nothing but stress, one might think, let’s just avoid this person and get them out of your life, period. Right? What if it is your child or a parent?
I find the Buddhist way of dealing with negativity works better than anything else. Buddhism teaches that one of the main paths to spiritual growth, and ultimately awakening or enlightenment, is the acceptance of all things, as they are in this moment. This means surrender to all that is, cultivating equanimity and the wisdom of acknowledging that, “it is the way it is.” This is opposed to pushing reality away, rejecting reality, and wanting things to be different than they are. This acceptance must apply equally to all phenomena, whether we perceive it as “negative” or “positive.” In fact, negativity can be our greatest teacher.
In other words learn to love negativity as part of life’s balance. Without negativity, positivity would not exist. The world we live in is impossible without both negative and positive. Every coin will always have two sides. If you will accept it and love both sides, it would never bother you ever again. Remember: it is your choice, no one else’s, what to love and what to hate.
Love, Health, and Wealth.