The difference between something good and something great is attention to detail.
– Charles R. Swindoll
In this post I would like to discuss positive attention only.
We were looking for attention since the day we were born. First we fought for attention from our parents, then from kids and teachers at school. In our teenage years, we wanted attention from boys or girls, and later on from friends and family and on and on.
Lack of attention destroys relationships in friendships, business, and even marriages. Attention is a food for the human ego. People become depressed if they lack positive attention. People will buy cars, jewelry, houses and even use wives to get attention from their peers. In business people are willing to trade a higher income for a better title that gives you higher recognition and more attention.
So why do we need all that positive attention? The answer is very simple: because it make us feel better about ourselves.
As human beings we have 3 centers:
All those 3 centers want to feel good. Mental: our mind wants to be appreciated, and is always searching for attention. The attention we receive gives a positive charge to our Emotional center which gives us more positive energy to our physical center.
It sounds all good but what is the point of this post you might ask. The point is that most of the time we forget to pay attention to ourselves, which is the most important attention we need. We have to pay attention to our physical center, which is our body. We need to pay attention to our emotions that are responsible for whether we are happy or not. And most important, we have to pay very close attention to what is going on in our mental center, our mind, responsible for what will happen with us in the next moment.
In conclusion, I would like to say that we need to pay attention to ourselves as much as we search for attention from others. Pay attention to our relationships, what we say, think, and do, and that alone will tremendously improve the quality of your life.
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I have custody of my 7 year old ADHD grandson. He is unable to articulate when he needs attention (his poor little brain just cant get the words together), so we watch his body language. Sometimes he just falls into our arms when he needs a hug, sometimes its a screaming fit when he is upset. Sometimes he just stands and stares at me – this is the hard one because I have to guess what he is trying to tell me. Paying attention to oneself is a very excellent idea – especially when some of us have such a hard time expressing emotions. Nice post! Thank you.
thank you for sharing such personal details about your life, I would start teaching him to write, this way it would be easier to communicate. You would be surprised how quickly 7 year old can learn
He excels in reading writing and math, but he just gets emotionally overwhelmed and it becomes a “wall” for him to try to share how he feels during those moments. Good idea, but wont work on him – thank you for the thought though!
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I’m far from knowledgeable in this area, but I do pay close attention to my emotions, my words and actions. I’m mindful that my words and actions are sincere and a reflection of my emotions. I think that when we become more in tune with the different aspects of ourselves, we’re happier as individuals. At which point, we need, and therefore seek less attention from others. For me, this represents the time that we become truly comfortable in our own skin, embracing who we are – imperfections included – and celebrating the person we have become.
thank you for sharing
Love this Alex. And yes, it comes down to looking after ourselves, balancing our needs in our life. In taking care of ourselves and our emotional state we’re better people to those around us.
Attention is something that people value more then money. In corporate world it is being used a lot, most people willing to take lower pay for better title…
I guess it depends on the position. Many people here go for the better pay … I’d settle for just doing a job that I love!
Not a big fan of trading my life for money, to me it is the same as going to prison. There always the way of doing your “Lifework” and generate enough income. That is one of the reasons to take my course.
Once you enter state of awakening the world changes around you.
Awakening is not being aware of what is going on around.
It is connection to everything around you including spiritual, when everything become you and you become everything that’s the first step of “Awakening”
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